coping with losing someone you love

lanceot · March 10th, 2009, 02:34 PM

I recently lost my partner and since the break up I have not been coping well at all.
I cant sleep, eat and i have a knot in my stomach which wont go away.
She left me...........
We had a great relationship so many fun times positive experinces and I supported who through a lot. In recent times we have had a few fights and she decided that this was too much and just walked out and that was that. She is a very unemotional woman which is hard because I am the opposite. She was/is willing to try and work this out at all which i struggle with as we had some many good things in our relationship and with some counseling could of got that back I am sure of it. She has made her mind up and is now blocking me out of her life.

I miss her and us so so so much it hurts deep inside my heart. Its horrible being at the house where we lived, its so empty now and i cry a lot. I feel a bit silly as there are people on here who hve lost far more and putting this in perspective I still have my health as does she. however I am still hurting and I would love some suggestions in coping with that hrt. How to sleep more than 3 hours a night how to move on and be strong.

carolann · October 31st, 2009, 01:09 PM

Well im sorry for your lose. I know what it feels like and all I can say is hang in there. You are going thru a hard time. It is a horrible feeling but I have come to understand it a little now that I have been reading up on codependency books.
Try reading them,get some counseling and work on yourself. It is not easy but you have to start somewhere. I think going to groups will help you by having other people share their troubles and what they did to help them.
I dont know how long you two have been apart but seriously,really get help for you. You need to start working on yourself and believe in yourself. Good luck

March 10th, 2009, 02:34 PM	#1
lanceot Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 1	coping with losing someone you love I recently lost my partner and since the break up I have not been coping well at all. I cant sleep, eat and i have a knot in my stomach which wont go away. She left me........... We had a great relationship so many fun times positive experinces and I supported who through a lot. In recent times we have had a few fights and she decided that this was too much and just walked out and that was that. She is a very unemotional woman which is hard because I am the opposite. She was/is willing to try and work this out at all which i struggle with as we had some many good things in our relationship and with some counseling could of got that back I am sure of it. She has made her mind up and is now blocking me out of her life. I miss her and us so so so much it hurts deep inside my heart. Its horrible being at the house where we lived, its so empty now and i cry a lot. I feel a bit silly as there are people on here who hve lost far more and putting this in perspective I still have my health as does she. however I am still hurting and I would love some suggestions in coping with that hrt. How to sleep more than 3 hours a night how to move on and be strong.

October 31st, 2009, 01:09 PM	#2
carolann Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: san diego Posts: 2	Well im sorry for your lose. I know what it feels like and all I can say is hang in there. You are going thru a hard time. It is a horrible feeling but I have come to understand it a little now that I have been reading up on codependency books. Try reading them,get some counseling and work on yourself. It is not easy but you have to start somewhere. I think going to groups will help you by having other people share their troubles and what they did to help them. I dont know how long you two have been apart but seriously,really get help for you. You need to start working on yourself and believe in yourself. Good luck