what do i do?

DragonsRain · November 9th, 2008, 02:38 PM

so here i am, newly diagnosed yet probably deep down inside knowing it was what I had, and have tried a couple of different meds and still feel "at a loss" for who or what i am. i don't feel whole, almost confused in this world. i don't know what to do nor where to begin. i just want to feel "normal" again.

kraftykid · November 11th, 2008, 10:04 PM

This is probably going to sound very odd, but bear with me, it may make sense in time.

When I was first dxed with all my stuff, I was completely over whelmed by it all. Thank goodness the dx only pointed out one thing at a time. I could not have handled the whole truth at one time.

It will take a while to find the right meds for you and I hope you are seeing a therapist. So hang in there and fight the good fight. I take meds to keep my head on straight, but there are still days that I have to fight through.

Let me tell you about my family... my daughter has bi-polar, she takes meds but will not go to therapy. For some reason she believes she has to save her world. Consequently she has her head in the sand because she cannot see how her actions hurt others. Then we come to my grandson, he is also a bi-polar. He is manic most of the time, is narcistic and to top it off he is very intelligent. He has managed to tear my family apart, because every one is wrong but him. Everything is about him. His mother has to call him at least once a week or he thinks she doesn't love him any more. I guess his phone only receives calls and will not send them (G). If you are do not agree with him you are no longer part of his family, you don't love him, etc.

We all get confused during our life time regarding our disorders because they have a tendency to get in the way. However you will learn how to work around them. I don't think there is such a thing as feeling normal, but I do believe there is a feeling called happy with what we accomplish.

((((((((((( ))))))))))

kraftykid · November 12th, 2008, 04:25 AM

I posted before I finished. I go to a very large medical facility that has branch offices in several cities. My doctor, an internist, is bi-polar. With faith and help you will get to what some people call normal. I have never been "normal", sounds kind of boring to me.

(((((((())))))))

pixiewillow76 · August 30th, 2010, 09:38 AM

I know the feeling, unfortunately I don't know only what I read... try and do activities you enjoy even if you don't feel like it. I made somewhat of a routine for myself, which helps. They say to be extra kind to yourself. It's not easy , but these suggestions have helped me. Depression sucks - there's gotta be a way out of the constant dragging feelings.

Let's hope so!

birdiepierce · June 10th, 2011, 12:53 PM

I was diagnosed bipolar with unpolar tendencies, which means I don't get the manic happy fellings, only the depressed part. Shortly after that I was put into a wheelchair. Then I had to many wrecks so I can't drive.I am on the outs with one of my kids. We are adding onto our house and with this and a few other things, I have slipped back down about 2 weeks ago.
I take meds but do not do therapy. I am still trying to learn how to tame the beast but still have episodes. I have to admit they are getting fewer and farther between.
What helps me is to sew or cross stitch. When I get down I don't feel like it but I do it anyway, and after awhile I do actually feel better.
I live in the country and am alone most of the time, which is depressing by itself, but If I keep moving I don't go down so far. You have just been diagnosed so it will take awhile for you to find out what is best for you. Don't give up, it will pass. Good luck and God Bless.

BLUE4EVER? · May 24th, 2012, 12:49 AM

It's hard to see hope when you feel like a failure,I'm isolated in a community of 500.

November 9th, 2008, 02:38 PM	#1
DragonsRain formerly HeartFeltTF ;) Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Upstate NY is where I call home Posts: 61	what do i do? so here i am, newly diagnosed yet probably deep down inside knowing it was what I had, and have tried a couple of different meds and still feel "at a loss" for who or what i am. i don't feel whole, almost confused in this world. i don't know what to do nor where to begin. i just want to feel "normal" again. __________________ Back on the boards in 2016. Do I sense a comeback? 😜

August 30th, 2010, 09:38 AM	#4
pixiewillow76 Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Goshen, IN Posts: 1	best I can do I know the feeling, unfortunately I don't know only what I read... try and do activities you enjoy even if you don't feel like it. I made somewhat of a routine for myself, which helps. They say to be extra kind to yourself. It's not easy , but these suggestions have helped me. Depression sucks - there's gotta be a way out of the constant dragging feelings. Let's hope so!

November 11th, 2008, 10:04 PM	#2
kraftykid Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 83	This is probably going to sound very odd, but bear with me, it may make sense in time. When I was first dxed with all my stuff, I was completely over whelmed by it all. Thank goodness the dx only pointed out one thing at a time. I could not have handled the whole truth at one time. It will take a while to find the right meds for you and I hope you are seeing a therapist. So hang in there and fight the good fight. I take meds to keep my head on straight, but there are still days that I have to fight through. Let me tell you about my family... my daughter has bi-polar, she takes meds but will not go to therapy. For some reason she believes she has to save her world. Consequently she has her head in the sand because she cannot see how her actions hurt others. Then we come to my grandson, he is also a bi-polar. He is manic most of the time, is narcistic and to top it off he is very intelligent. He has managed to tear my family apart, because every one is wrong but him. Everything is about him. His mother has to call him at least once a week or he thinks she doesn't love him any more. I guess his phone only receives calls and will not send them (G). If you are do not agree with him you are no longer part of his family, you don't love him, etc. We all get confused during our life time regarding our disorders because they have a tendency to get in the way. However you will learn how to work around them. I don't think there is such a thing as feeling normal, but I do believe there is a feeling called happy with what we accomplish. ((((((((((( ))))))))))

November 12th, 2008, 04:25 AM	#3
kraftykid Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 83	I posted before I finished. I go to a very large medical facility that has branch offices in several cities. My doctor, an internist, is bi-polar. With faith and help you will get to what some people call normal. I have never been "normal", sounds kind of boring to me. (((((((())))))))

June 10th, 2011, 12:53 PM	#5
birdiepierce Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1	I was diagnosed bipolar with unpolar tendencies, which means I don't get the manic happy fellings, only the depressed part. Shortly after that I was put into a wheelchair. Then I had to many wrecks so I can't drive.I am on the outs with one of my kids. We are adding onto our house and with this and a few other things, I have slipped back down about 2 weeks ago. I take meds but do not do therapy. I am still trying to learn how to tame the beast but still have episodes. I have to admit they are getting fewer and farther between. What helps me is to sew or cross stitch. When I get down I don't feel like it but I do it anyway, and after awhile I do actually feel better. I live in the country and am alone most of the time, which is depressing by itself, but If I keep moving I don't go down so far. You have just been diagnosed so it will take awhile for you to find out what is best for you. Don't give up, it will pass. Good luck and God Bless.

May 24th, 2012, 12:49 AM	#6
BLUE4EVER? Junior Member Join Date: May 2012 Posts: 5	It's hard to see hope when you feel like a failure,I'm isolated in a community of 500.