Codependency

kraftykid · June 17th, 2008, 01:17 AM

This is a sneaky little bugger because it takes so many forms. I have had a problem with it for years and didn't know it until my T pointed it out. Sooo being the great and wonderful client I am I asked him how to get over it.

He told me to be patient, kind to myself, know that I am doing the correct thing for everybody involved. Absolutely no problem!!! But the codependency went on and on. My T and I had another little chat about what I should be doing.

He told me that apparently I needed more basic instructions, so now I have to keep my nose out of other peoples problems and let them work it out for themselves. Sheesh..... it would be so much faster for them if I could go back to the old way of doing things.

ROFL

This is hard work, hugs to anyone else who has to keep his or her nose outta other peoples business.

(((((((((( ))))))))))

IRISH_EYES_99 · June 17th, 2008, 07:41 PM

((((((( KraftyKid ))))))))) just because. Be good to yourself.

kraftykid · June 25th, 2008, 08:31 PM

I am so proud of myself. Just went through two days of torture. My grandson's dog is at the vet, very ill. He is being taken care of by a "new" vet. She has only been there 5 years. It was all I could do to keep from asking some of the older vets that we deal with to check it out and make sure he is getting the proper care. I fussed and fussed and couldn't think of any way I "should" fix it.

My daughter called today and said she had called and ask our regular old time vet to check on the dog. She explained that she was not unhappy with the "new" vet, but needed the reassurance of someone she knew and trusted.

I am so proud of myself, as is my husband and as my T will be.

Those were terrible days, but I made such a giant step!!!!!

Yay for me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeah, I love congratulating myself... ahahahahahahahah

PBS · June 26th, 2008, 11:01 AM

KK!!!!!!!! GREAT JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!

It's hard for me to step back to...but I have learned that I can't fix everything in the world...and I have stopped trying for the most part...

YOU DID GREAT AND I'm PROUD OF YOU TOO!!!

((((((((((((( KK ))))))))))))))))))))))

kraftykid · June 26th, 2008, 03:45 PM

Thank you PBS my T was so very proud of me.

(((((((((( PBS ))))))))))

PBS · June 26th, 2008, 09:49 PM

ok...so...now we both know we can't fix the world.... but... if they would just follow a couple of my suggestions, it might be soooo much better...

giggle!

kraftykid · June 28th, 2008, 12:07 AM

Not only would it be better, it would be faster!!!

(((((((( ))))))))

PBS · June 28th, 2008, 03:57 PM

ROTFL!!!!!!!!!!!!! too true!!! giggle!

PBS · July 9th, 2008, 08:31 PM

ok...so if I could only just fix a few little things??? PLEASE?!?!?!?!?!??!?! AUUUUUUUGHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!

i'm totally frustrated today by the lack of being able to do ANYTHING to FIX SOMEONE ELSE'S LIFE...cuz..umm..yeah..i do such a great job on mine! LOL!

Seriously though..it's taken EVERYTHING I have today to NOT SAY... JUST DO WHAT I SAY AND IT WILL BE BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((ROOMIES))))))))) ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

PBS · July 9th, 2008, 08:31 PM

Hello... my name is PBS and ... I am an ENABLER... sigh.

June 17th, 2008, 01:17 AM	#1
kraftykid Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 83	Codependency This is a sneaky little bugger because it takes so many forms. I have had a problem with it for years and didn't know it until my T pointed it out. Sooo being the great and wonderful client I am I asked him how to get over it. He told me to be patient, kind to myself, know that I am doing the correct thing for everybody involved. Absolutely no problem!!! But the codependency went on and on. My T and I had another little chat about what I should be doing. He told me that apparently I needed more basic instructions, so now I have to keep my nose out of other peoples problems and let them work it out for themselves. Sheesh..... it would be so much faster for them if I could go back to the old way of doing things. ROFL This is hard work, hugs to anyone else who has to keep his or her nose outta other peoples business. (((((((((( ))))))))))

June 17th, 2008, 07:41 PM	#2
IRISH_EYES_99 Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 62	((((((( KraftyKid ))))))))) just because. Be good to yourself. __________________ [COLOR=teal]May your blessings out number the shamrocks that grow... May trouble avoid you whereever you go...... An Irish Blessing[/COLOR]

June 26th, 2008, 11:01 AM	#4
PBS aka HarmonyTF Join Date: May 2008 Location: colorado Posts: 66	KK!!!!!!!! GREAT JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!! It's hard for me to step back to...but I have learned that I can't fix everything in the world...and I have stopped trying for the most part... YOU DID GREAT AND I'm PROUD OF YOU TOO!!! ((((((((((((( KK )))))))))))))))))))))) __________________ `````````````````````````````````````` Hugs.... PoohsBigsister aka... HarmonyTF

June 26th, 2008, 09:49 PM	#6
PBS aka HarmonyTF Join Date: May 2008 Location: colorado Posts: 66	ok...so...now we both know we can't fix the world.... but... if they would just follow a couple of my suggestions, it might be soooo much better... giggle! __________________ `````````````````````````````````````` Hugs.... PoohsBigsister aka... HarmonyTF

June 28th, 2008, 03:57 PM	#8
PBS aka HarmonyTF Join Date: May 2008 Location: colorado Posts: 66	ROTFL!!!!!!!!!!!!! too true!!! giggle! __________________ `````````````````````````````````````` Hugs.... PoohsBigsister aka... HarmonyTF

June 25th, 2008, 08:31 PM	#3
kraftykid Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 83	I am so proud of myself. Just went through two days of torture. My grandson's dog is at the vet, very ill. He is being taken care of by a "new" vet. She has only been there 5 years. It was all I could do to keep from asking some of the older vets that we deal with to check it out and make sure he is getting the proper care. I fussed and fussed and couldn't think of any way I "should" fix it. My daughter called today and said she had called and ask our regular old time vet to check on the dog. She explained that she was not unhappy with the "new" vet, but needed the reassurance of someone she knew and trusted. I am so proud of myself, as is my husband and as my T will be. Those were terrible days, but I made such a giant step!!!!! Yay for me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yeah, I love congratulating myself... ahahahahahahahah

June 26th, 2008, 03:45 PM	#5
kraftykid Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 83	Thank you PBS my T was so very proud of me. (((((((((( PBS ))))))))))

June 28th, 2008, 12:07 AM	#7
kraftykid Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 83	Not only would it be better, it would be faster!!! (((((((( ))))))))

July 9th, 2008, 08:31 PM	#9
PBS aka HarmonyTF Join Date: May 2008 Location: colorado Posts: 66	ok...so if I could only just fix a few little things??? PLEASE?!?!?!?!?!??!?! AUUUUUUUGHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!! i'm totally frustrated today by the lack of being able to do ANYTHING to FIX SOMEONE ELSE'S LIFE...cuz..umm..yeah..i do such a great job on mine! LOL! Seriously though..it's taken EVERYTHING I have today to NOT SAY... JUST DO WHAT I SAY AND IT WILL BE BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((ROOMIES))))))))) )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) __________________ `````````````````````````````````````` Hugs.... PoohsBigsister aka... HarmonyTF