introductries in Loss

terry357 · June 15th, 2008, 10:31 PM

Hello my Name is Terry@44 upon the Loss of my Brother (John Doe) in 97 a Mother Reaches out Expresses "you our my only Son" as i Express "Mom i`m hear for you" understanding how her Grief was different then Mine (as for Every Loss in Grief is Different to another person My Mother past June 18,2000 (Sudden Heart Attack) No Age Limits/just a number,No Cures,No "Oh get over it" its getting "Threw this Process" and surely No getting Around it (running from it) We all Know 1 thing "The missing",We all miss them.
(((( to all Losses ))))
Care to Share yours if you Wish?

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Terry357 "You`ll Never Walk Alone"
Above is Only Relating,ty

DragonsRain · June 16th, 2008, 04:26 PM

Terry, I agree with you, it's the "missing" part and it never goes away. I am so glad they opened this folder for us as I know it helped alot of ppl before.

(((((((((((((Terry)))))))))))))) always good to see you my friend. Take care of yourself and hope to see you soon!!

kraftykid · June 17th, 2008, 01:29 AM

I lost a very good friend 25+ years ago and I still think about him. I do my best to not think of the bad stuff when he was so sick but the good times we had together. He was my riding buddy, we would load up our horses and head out for the hills. I will always remember our last couple of rides together. On one of those trips we sat high on a hill over looking Puget Sound, it was beautiful sunny day and all you could see were the farms on the flats and the islands and water beyond. He showed and shared that spot with me. I will never forget that view and how I wish I was still able to ride up there and share that spot with another good friend. Unfortunately my riding days are over, but I still have that beautiful memory.

terry357 · June 17th, 2008, 05:44 PM

((((( KraftyKid )))))
((( DragonsRain ))))

4 Words say it all
"I`m hear For you"

Terry357

carico26 · December 31st, 2008, 04:30 PM

I relate. I just found this thread today. I am 30 years old and lost my mom when I was 20... I never truly grieved her. I bottled it up. Having my dad around helped. I still lived with him, and he was great. We both needed to distract and I am afraid we got a little caught up in it. He dealt with his privately. I never dealt with mine. I didn't know how. I couldn't handle it I guess. There were never two people more alike than my dad and I.

He passed away November 2006. I did it again. Not intentunally mind you, but nonetheless. I didn't bottle at first but without even realizing it, I did. Until March 2008. I had a severe panic attack that lasted more than a week. I woke with a heart rate of 150 or so every morning, straight out of bed. I felt like I couldn't breath and my chest hurt. I saw my doctor who was also his doctor and knew the situation and he asked me about my grief. At that point I realized how numb I had become. It was like having amnesia. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't remember anything about my dad. I started seeing a therapist and it was like a violent explosion of grief suddenly released. I have never gone through this before and suddenly I am grieving both of my parents. Mostly my dad, that is still so fresh it is like it happened yesterday. I can finally remember those last painful weeks. Spongebathing him, emptying his catheter, holding his hand and saying goodbye. I wasn't ready, I'm still not ready. How do people get through this? I am trying my best, one day at a time but it hurts so bad. I want my "rock" back. My heart goes out to each and every one of you who is suffering from grief. Thanks for the ear... or eyes

Cari

June 15th, 2008, 10:31 PM	#1
terry357 Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: MD Posts: 30	introductries in Loss Hello my Name is Terry@44 upon the Loss of my Brother (John Doe) in 97 a Mother Reaches out Expresses "you our my only Son" as i Express "Mom i`m hear for you" understanding how her Grief was different then Mine (as for Every Loss in Grief is Different to another person My Mother past June 18,2000 (Sudden Heart Attack) No Age Limits/just a number,No Cures,No "Oh get over it" its getting "Threw this Process" and surely No getting Around it (running from it) We all Know 1 thing "The missing",We all miss them. (((( to all Losses )))) Care to Share yours if you Wish? ---------- Terry357 "You`ll Never Walk Alone" Above is Only Relating,ty

June 16th, 2008, 04:26 PM	#2
DragonsRain formerly HeartFeltTF ;) Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Upstate NY is where I call home Posts: 61	Terry, I agree with you, it's the "missing" part and it never goes away. I am so glad they opened this folder for us as I know it helped alot of ppl before. (((((((((((((Terry)))))))))))))) always good to see you my friend. Take care of yourself and hope to see you soon!! __________________ Back on the boards in 2016. Do I sense a comeback? 😜

December 31st, 2008, 04:30 PM	#5
carico26 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 1	(((((To every one of you)))) I relate. I just found this thread today. I am 30 years old and lost my mom when I was 20... I never truly grieved her. I bottled it up. Having my dad around helped. I still lived with him, and he was great. We both needed to distract and I am afraid we got a little caught up in it. He dealt with his privately. I never dealt with mine. I didn't know how. I couldn't handle it I guess. There were never two people more alike than my dad and I. He passed away November 2006. I did it again. Not intentunally mind you, but nonetheless. I didn't bottle at first but without even realizing it, I did. Until March 2008. I had a severe panic attack that lasted more than a week. I woke with a heart rate of 150 or so every morning, straight out of bed. I felt like I couldn't breath and my chest hurt. I saw my doctor who was also his doctor and knew the situation and he asked me about my grief. At that point I realized how numb I had become. It was like having amnesia. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't remember anything about my dad. I started seeing a therapist and it was like a violent explosion of grief suddenly released. I have never gone through this before and suddenly I am grieving both of my parents. Mostly my dad, that is still so fresh it is like it happened yesterday. I can finally remember those last painful weeks. Spongebathing him, emptying his catheter, holding his hand and saying goodbye. I wasn't ready, I'm still not ready. How do people get through this? I am trying my best, one day at a time but it hurts so bad. I want my "rock" back. My heart goes out to each and every one of you who is suffering from grief. Thanks for the ear... or eyes Cari

June 17th, 2008, 01:29 AM	#3
kraftykid Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 83	I lost a very good friend 25+ years ago and I still think about him. I do my best to not think of the bad stuff when he was so sick but the good times we had together. He was my riding buddy, we would load up our horses and head out for the hills. I will always remember our last couple of rides together. On one of those trips we sat high on a hill over looking Puget Sound, it was beautiful sunny day and all you could see were the farms on the flats and the islands and water beyond. He showed and shared that spot with me. I will never forget that view and how I wish I was still able to ride up there and share that spot with another good friend. Unfortunately my riding days are over, but I still have that beautiful memory.

June 17th, 2008, 05:44 PM	#4
terry357 Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: MD Posts: 30	((((( KraftyKid ))))) ((( DragonsRain )))) 4 Words say it all "I`m hear For you" Terry357