Parents fighting

Heygirl13 · June 11th, 2011, 01:34 AM

Hey kay so im 16 and my parents are just fighting and its kinda my dads fault, well it is his fault. He got drunk today and he just tells my mom all this crap, he doesnt abuse her physically but he does mentally, which is worse in my opinion. He keeps saying all this stuff to my mom and she...the only reason she is with him is because of us her kids. But she cant take it anymore. My dad has soo many issues, like his childhood really sucked and i think he has depression. So if my mom were to leave him i dont know what would happen to him. He would probably kill himself cuz hes talked about that when hes drunk. We've tried to help him but he doesnt want it. My mom she was almost raped by one of my dads friends. She says he didnt actually do anything but my dad keeps bugging her about it. I just...i dont know what to do. My mom talked to me today about leaving my dad and moving somewhere else. On one hand i do want to move because i dont want my little brother and sisters seeing them fight and my mom going to that pain, but on the other hand i dont know what will happen to my dad...i dont know...this is just to much. What should i do? Its not like my dads a jerk all the time hes only like that when hes drunk but he gets drunk a lot. I just feel like running away. Any advice on what i should do?

IRISH_EYES_99 · June 12th, 2011, 01:12 AM

Dear Heygirl13,

Having been there. It's better for your mom,you & your siblings to be away from that abuse. Really. Are you able to talk to dad when he is sober/ straight? If so let him know how concerned you are. In the meantime listen to mom.
She wants to get you all out of a bad situation. Staying there & taking that abuse will make things worse.
Seriously I understand your concern about your dad & his talk of suicide, He needs help desperatly. It's up to him to get it. You are NOT responsible for your parents actions/ inactions. When he is sober / straight tell him that talk frightens you, he needs to know that. Tell him please talk to a dr/ counselor.
If he's been in the service the VA is a good place to go. They are there to help.
Wish you the best. Stay in touch. We care. Remember that.
You too could use the help of a counselor, I hope you have someone to talk to. My prayers & thoughts are with you.

Heygirl13 · June 12th, 2011, 12:05 PM

Thank you, and my mom is going to talk to him. Shes gonna tell my dad that he either can change and get help or we all leave. We're all so gonna get him some help so he can stop drinking and a counselor to help him. Hopefully this time he'll take the help. Thanks again for the support

IRISH_EYES_99 · June 13th, 2011, 04:47 AM

Oh Heygirl, I'm happy to hear that. Hope it all works out for all of you. Your mom is a strong lady. It takes a lot of courage to face what needs to be faced. Glad that you see that. Praying that your dad will listen & get help.
Keep posting we care.

Pixxibelle · July 7th, 2011, 11:56 PM

Heygirl,
I hope you are ok. Please know that if you need to talk or vent or whatever, we are here for you. Keep us posted to let us know you are ok. Prayers and hugs to you.

Pixxibelle · July 7th, 2011, 11:57 PM

Heygirl,
I hope you are ok. Please know that if you need to talk or vent or whatever, we are here for you. Keep us posted to let us know you are ok. Prayers and hugs to you.

Heygirl13 · July 8th, 2011, 12:38 AM

Hey, thanks for the support. Everything is getting better. My father has issues and he always will, but now we're going to help him deal with them. We're all going to move next month, mom and dad together, and it will be a new start. Its what we need, a new begining. Hopefully things will go and stay better from there. Thanks again to everyone for the support, I really appreciate it

medevilgirl · November 4th, 2011, 10:01 AM

I'm happy to hear that. Hope it all works out for all of you. Your mom is a strong lady. It takes a lot of courage to face what needs to be faced. Glad that you see tha

June 11th, 2011, 01:34 AM	#1
Heygirl13 Junior Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 7	Parents fighting Hey kay so im 16 and my parents are just fighting and its kinda my dads fault, well it is his fault. He got drunk today and he just tells my mom all this crap, he doesnt abuse her physically but he does mentally, which is worse in my opinion. He keeps saying all this stuff to my mom and she...the only reason she is with him is because of us her kids. But she cant take it anymore. My dad has soo many issues, like his childhood really sucked and i think he has depression. So if my mom were to leave him i dont know what would happen to him. He would probably kill himself cuz hes talked about that when hes drunk. We've tried to help him but he doesnt want it. My mom she was almost raped by one of my dads friends. She says he didnt actually do anything but my dad keeps bugging her about it. I just...i dont know what to do. My mom talked to me today about leaving my dad and moving somewhere else. On one hand i do want to move because i dont want my little brother and sisters seeing them fight and my mom going to that pain, but on the other hand i dont know what will happen to my dad...i dont know...this is just to much. What should i do? Its not like my dads a jerk all the time hes only like that when hes drunk but he gets drunk a lot. I just feel like running away. Any advice on what i should do?

June 12th, 2011, 01:12 AM	#2
IRISH_EYES_99 Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 62	Dear Heygirl13, Having been there. It's better for your mom,you & your siblings to be away from that abuse. Really. Are you able to talk to dad when he is sober/ straight? If so let him know how concerned you are. In the meantime listen to mom. She wants to get you all out of a bad situation. Staying there & taking that abuse will make things worse. Seriously I understand your concern about your dad & his talk of suicide, He needs help desperatly. It's up to him to get it. You are NOT responsible for your parents actions/ inactions. When he is sober / straight tell him that talk frightens you, he needs to know that. Tell him please talk to a dr/ counselor. If he's been in the service the VA is a good place to go. They are there to help. Wish you the best. Stay in touch. We care. Remember that. You too could use the help of a counselor, I hope you have someone to talk to. My prayers & thoughts are with you. __________________ [COLOR=teal]May your blessings out number the shamrocks that grow... May trouble avoid you whereever you go...... An Irish Blessing[/COLOR]

June 13th, 2011, 04:47 AM	#4
IRISH_EYES_99 Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 62	Oh Heygirl, I'm happy to hear that. Hope it all works out for all of you. Your mom is a strong lady. It takes a lot of courage to face what needs to be faced. Glad that you see that. Praying that your dad will listen & get help. Keep posting we care. __________________ [COLOR=teal]May your blessings out number the shamrocks that grow... May trouble avoid you whereever you go...... An Irish Blessing[/COLOR]

July 8th, 2011, 12:38 AM	#7
Heygirl13 Junior Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 7	Thank You Hey, thanks for the support. Everything is getting better. My father has issues and he always will, but now we're going to help him deal with them. We're all going to move next month, mom and dad together, and it will be a new start. Its what we need, a new begining. Hopefully things will go and stay better from there. Thanks again to everyone for the support, I really appreciate it

June 12th, 2011, 12:05 PM	#3
Heygirl13 Junior Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 7	Thank you, and my mom is going to talk to him. Shes gonna tell my dad that he either can change and get help or we all leave. We're all so gonna get him some help so he can stop drinking and a counselor to help him. Hopefully this time he'll take the help. Thanks again for the support

July 7th, 2011, 11:56 PM	#5
Pixxibelle Junior Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 4	Heygirl, I hope you are ok. Please know that if you need to talk or vent or whatever, we are here for you. Keep us posted to let us know you are ok. Prayers and hugs to you.

July 7th, 2011, 11:57 PM	#6
Pixxibelle Junior Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 4	Heygirl, I hope you are ok. Please know that if you need to talk or vent or whatever, we are here for you. Keep us posted to let us know you are ok. Prayers and hugs to you.

November 4th, 2011, 10:01 AM	#8
medevilgirl Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 1	I'm happy to hear that. Hope it all works out for all of you. Your mom is a strong lady. It takes a lot of courage to face what needs to be faced. Glad that you see tha